Insecurities & Body Image Issues …What Helped Me to Cope…

I was born in the 80s in the intellect capital of India, under communist rule. In my kind of families vanity was equated with vain.. Putting an effort to look good meant you have nothing better to do, you better read a book or learn Rabindra Sangeet….

The benefit was manifold, I am well read and always look beyond appearances… but on the other hand grew up to be extremely shy and always reminded myself that am not of right height, right haircut, right skin tone etc etc…..It took me long to overcome these insecurities, not completely but mostly.. I want to share what helped me, because it may help someone else

  • Find an inspiration: I had a room mate who was from north east throughout my JNU days, and they are the most effortlessly stylish Indians you will ever found, she played a big part in developing my own sense of style..
  • Follow Blogs: There used to be blogs by mortals like us who used to share their daily styles in ways we can follow. Not the instagram bloggers who posts photoshopped, fully made up snaps in clothes sponsored by brands. Dont find inspiration there, better follow runaway models, they are at least professionals. But I digress, I entirely learned how to accessorize from few blogs.
  • Find your way: After you are done with getting inspired there will be a time you will find tour own footing. Like after visiting Zara, Forever 21, H&M many time I realised handloom cotton is my holy grail of fashion.
  • Accept Your Flaws: It is more difficult to comprehend and follow than the social media memes make it look, but that is the ultimate goal….
  • These four bullets took me 20 minutes to write but it took me a decade to not feel dejected by my own reflection on mirror on most days..
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    The Trials of Morrigan Crow- Do We Have “The Next Harry Potter”- or Not

    I have seen so many books termed as the next potter, the next hunger games, the next gone girl , even to my horror the next girl on the train (why do you want to be the next of a horrible book is beyond me) that I avoid these “next” books like plague.

    But when I came across this book the plotline seemed intriguing, after reading the sample chapters on amazon, I know I had to get it. Let us see what it is all about…..

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    Enter the Wundrous world of Morrigan Crow and Nevermoor – the most fantastical children’s release of the year.Morrigan Crow is cursed. Having been born on Eventide, the unluckiest day for any child to be born, she’s blamed for all local misfortunes, from hailstorms to heart attacks – and, worst of all, the curse means that Morrigan is doomed to die at midnight on her eleventh birthday. But as Morrigan awaits her fate, a strange and remarkable man named Jupiter North appears.

    Chased by black-smoke hounds and shadowy hunters on horseback, he whisks her away into the safety of a secret, magical city called Nevermoor. It’s then that Morrigan discovers Jupiter has chosen her to contend for a place in the city’s most prestigious organisation: the Wundrous Society.

    In order to join, she must compete in four difficult and dangerous trials against hundreds of other children, each boasting an extraordinary talent that sets them apart – an extraordinary talent that Morrigan insists she does not have. To stay in the safety of Nevermoor for good, Morrigan will need to find a way to pass the tests – or she’ll have to leave the city and confront her deadly fate once and for all.

    Perfect for fans of the Harry Potter series and His Dark Materials, this series takes readers into an extraordinary world, setting hope and imagination alive.”

    Let us start with what did not went well with me , and will keep the good parts for later like dessert.

    • The blurb, it spoils half the plot.
    • The editing, my paperback was 374 pages long. It could have been 250 pages long without any major loss of plot.
    • The mentor of the protagonist (Jupiter North) could have been a little less Dumbledore-y , the villain little less Vold-y 😛

    Now the good parts

    • What a gorgeous detailed world building. Absolutely brilliant.
    • Character development of supporting ones need more detailing in the next books, but the main character, Morrigan Crow is absolutely brilliant. A witty, sassy darling girl despite the apparent misfortune.
    • There is a recent trend in YA literature to be too much politically correct, thankfully this is without such artificial things.
    • The last twist was fantastic.

    Well this will remind you of Harry Potter at times but is nowhere near the brilliance of Potter universe. But if you read without that Himalayan expectation it is a nice read.

    My Goodreads rating : 4/5

     

     

    Durga Puja-A Guided Tour of the Best Trends for ” Slow Fashion” Lovers: Part II

    Saptami

    For people like us , those poor working souls, we mostly get leave from Saptami onwards. And Saptami morning for me is the pandal hopping day. If you try to avoid wearing saree for the crowded pandals, and the occasional rain and muds that is fine, but wearing denim on Durga Puja is plane sad.

    All am thinking is opting the Indo-western dresses which are such win win combination of comfort and elegance. Also they will help you to stand out

    Source: Pinterest.com, the dress is from Anokhi I guess.

    Source: Jabong.com

    Wear some dramatic jewelry and boho accessories, it is upto you and your indifference to glances that will stretch your accessories sense,mine is outrageous.

    Source: I own them, got from a insta store name krutiarts.

    Southern Beauties

    For years and years Bong women would only recognize Kanjeevaram/Kanchipuram silk or Gadwal sarees as “South Indian Saree”, but not any more. Two weaves from Karnataka clearly stands out , Ilkal/Irkal and pattedu anchu.

    Pick one , pair with some traditional blouse (khun blouses are rage right now). Pair with traditional jewelry and if someone asks you whether you are from Mahesmati , just ignore them.

    Pattedu Anchu from Jaypore.com

    Ilkal from Ajio.com. Also Ajio is my favorite shopping site, it is a treasure trove.

    PS: Ilkal sarees look gorgeous enough to attend a marriage in it, zero maintainance and usually cal be obtained within 1.5 k INR. Totally win win.

    I will come back with the next edition soonish.

    Durga Puja-A Guided Tour of the Best Trends for ” Slow Fashion” Lovers: Part I

    Durga puja 2017 is around the corner, and if are like me, you must be scratching your head trying to find out how to look less like the usual stressed out self and can add some color to life…

    Also I am sucker of slow fashion ( read saree) and Durga puja shopping was a let down with all the blings and dazzle. So if you love handloom and earthy stuff let me take you to the awesomest ( that is not a word, I know) trends you can follow.. or make your own statement. I will publish five posts for five days of Durga Puja…PS : this is NOT a fashion blog, I just love Indian ethnic and handcrafted products.

    Soshthi

    Dhonekhali: Dhonekali sarees are traditional Bengal tant, compulsorily handloom and 100 count. The best thing which has happened to handloom sarees recently are the revival of the humble weave.

    Source: google

    What is the better way to usher the festival than wearing the hundred years old weave. Go for a ethnic Bengali look with this saree…

    Gamcha: Have you ever thought that there will be a day when Gamcha will become fashion statement. My mom still can’t believe. Oh between unlike the mushrooming Facebook shops would like you to believe, all checks are not Gamcha….

    Source: pinterest.com

    A word of caution would be to check the material. Some gamchas have poor colour fastness and may look terrible after a wash. Also don’t spend too much, they may become out of fashion in a year…

    Keep this for Sosthi evening, pair it with a gamcha blouse and don’t go for any accessories… the look is tad bit over whelming as it is.

    Will come back with the next edition tomorrow… let me know what you are planning for Puja..